Surviving the last weeks of Winter

I don’t know about you, but with last weeks less than desirable temperatures I am more than ready for warmer weather. I have finally reached the point that I reach about this time during every season where I feel like I am wearing the same clothes over and over and over! ( my husband assures me I’m not buuut let’s be honest, he’s just trying to prevent a shopping trip) I’ve stopped allowing myself to purchase anything for winter so all new clothes have to be for the spring and go in a pile of things that are desperately waiting to be worn. So, I’ve had to start getting creative. I’m going to share a few tips on how to make you and your wardrobe feel fresh when we are all ready to start wearing sandals and tank tops. First thing I did was purchase a new lip color. I chose Nars Never Say Never matte lip pencil to brighten things up and remind me that cold weather will soon be gone. It is a great shade for the transitioning season and will go with me all the way through Summer. Secondly, I’ve been wearing a lot of hats. Anything from my baseball caps, to my wide brim fedora and trying to get as many wears out of my CC Beanie before I put it away for next year. My last tip is to start trying out Spring trends now so that you are more than ready to rock them when the time comes. It looks like athletic chic is going to be a big thing this year with the tennis shoes and jeans outfit–I’m all about it! Still trying to decide exactly which pair of New Balances I want. ( I had light pink ones in middle school) So for now I’m starting by pairing my workout leggings, tennis shoes, casual v neck, slouchy cardi, and bold lip to test out the “athleisure” trend. I hope some of these come in handy to help get you out of the “God willing last weeks of winter” fashion slumps. 

Identity crisis

To the girl who’s “just married” ,

February 3rd marked 4 months of marriage for Taylor and me. I can honestly say marriage has gone above and beyond all of my expectations. I consider that nothing short of a blessing from God. I’m often asked “How’s marriage?” and I nearly always get a big smile on my face and reply, “oh my, just a dream!” because I honestly feel that way. But what has been hard is something I wasn’t prepared for. I went from a single girl, to going on dates, then a girlfriend, soon a fiancé, shortly a bride and now a wife. Exactly what I want to be. But in those past seasons it was easy for me to put my identity in who I was in those seasons, whether I was the fun single girl who could plan killer girls nights (I’m still capable of that) or I was the girl getting taken on the sweetest dates, then I was the fiancé constantly going to showers every weekend, to wedding day where you never feel more like a princess, to now a wife where we get in bed at 8:00 and watch a movie if we want or I stay at home and clean and cook because I enjoy taking care of those things in our home. Don’t get me wrong, being Taylor’s wife is exactly what I want to be. The fact that I get to cook dinner for Taylor and get excited for him to come everyday is part of what makes marriage a dream. But, being a wife is not who I am. Putting my identity in what I do as a 23 year old wife who sometimes stays home and cleans or sometimes makes dinners that don’t taste very good is sure not going to make me feel worth much. Even if I allowed it to, when I become a pro at a clean house and that’s what my identity is in, when kids comes along I’m sure not going to be a very fun mom if I’m constantly worried about the cleanliness of my house. There’s a reason The Lord says to find our identity in Him. It’s where we find rest! Because you know who I am in Him? I’m the daughter of a King who died to know me. WHAT. Me? How? It’s true. I can let go of what I do being who I am. Any of the identity I found in myself in those past seasons has never come close to being who I am in my Jesus. I don’t write this because I’m a pro at believing it, I write it because it’s a daily struggle. I know the truth and I’m hoping to remind myself of it more often, Taylor is great at showing me truth also. So “just married” girl, I’m with you. It’s hard to sometimes be the only married friend who doesn’t have exciting first kiss stories and the most exciting thing that happened to you last week was that your dinner turned out, or it’s hard to turn down going to eat every weekend because you now live that budget life, but I know for me, getting to be Mrs. Kidwell is right where I want to be.